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What is Holistic Health from a Gurmat Perspective?

At the Kaur Life Virtual Retreat in early August, we had a panel on Holistic Wellness from a…

09/22/2020

Chopping Board Diet

How Dieting Starved My Sikhi

By Anymous Kaur Though the word feminism* has become mainstream, people of all genders fall prey to an…

08/06/2018

Self Care is a Revolutionary Act

“There is no Truth in suffering, there is no Truth in comfort. There is no Truth in wandering…

06/25/2017

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Mallika Kaur recently wrote a phenomal book called

Mallika Kaur recently wrote a phenomal book called, "Faith, Gender, and Activism in the Punjab Conflict: The Wheat Fields Still Whisper". ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Check out her interview (link in bio) where she talks about her journey of uncovering stories of faith, feminist action, and the power of citizen-activists.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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A little background: Punjab was the arena of one of the first major armed conflicts of post-colonial India. During its deadliest decade, as many as 250,000 people were killed. Mallika Kaur unearths the stories of three people who found themselves at the center of Punjab’s human rights movement: Baljit Kaur, who armed herself with a video camera to record essential evidence of the conflict; Justice Ajit Singh Bains, who became a beloved “people’s judge”; and Inderjit Singh Jaijee, who returned to Punjab to document abuses even as other elites were fleeing. Together, they are credited with saving countless lives. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Trigger warnings: Mentions of sexual assault of mi

Trigger warnings: Mentions of sexual assault of minors; sexual abuse in Gurdwara; gender-based violence.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If a survivor of sexual assault discloses abuse that’s been occurring in the Sikh community or Gurdwara, do we as a sangat or do gurdwara committees/leadership have a process in place to deal with it? or address the situation? Many times the answer is “no”. At best, there is an ad-hoc scramble. Oftentimes, there is no scramble at all. And at worse, there is an active cover up or denial. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Read our thoughts (link in bio) on how we can change this. We must do better to support survivors and we must work to end sexual violence. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Trigger warnings: Mentions of sexual assault of mi

Trigger warnings: Mentions of sexual assault of minors; sexual abuse in Gurdwara; gender-based violence.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The “#MeToo” era has ushered in long-overdue, public conversations about sexual harassment, sexual assault, survivor healing, and justice. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Though the Gurus made empowerment, social justice, and equality pillars of Sikhi, our panth has been slow to join the #MeToo discussion; we seem to find it difficult to put Sikh values and Gurmat into practice. Steeped in a culture of patriarchy, victim-blaming, izzat, and denial, many Sikh sangats struggle to have these conversations. However, as more cases are brought to the forefront of panthic consciousness, the tide is slowly changing. (As seen, for example, in the #metoosikh campaign spearheaded by @kaurvoices). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We are in awe of the courage of survivors who come forward to share their story in a community that continues to blame survivors for their trauma and abuse. In many cases this can be a difficult, emotional, and re-traumatizing process for them. We also know that many survivors choose not to share their story publicly because of this difficulty, and we respect that decision.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You can read our article, "Confronting Sexual Assault in Sikh Spaces" via the link in our bio. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Trigger warnings: Mentions of sexual assault of mi

Trigger warnings: Mentions of sexual assault of minors; sexual abuse in Gurdwara; gender-based violence.
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We wrote an article (link in bio) in light of the recent community conversation regarding the 1997 Gurdarshan Singh sexual assault case. Kaur Life fiercely condemns all forms of gender-based violence and sexual assault. Unfortunately, sexual assault in Sikh spaces is a widespread and recurring issue. Our community must address lingering trauma that results from such crimes. We also must be proactive in implementing long term efforts in creating safe spaces.
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We did not rush to publication, as we wished to be sensitive, Gurmat-based, and survivor-centered, to the best of our ability. This is a grave issue that deserves thoughtfulness and time. Our ultimate goal is to support survivors of sexual assault and to help create a more just Sikh society which is free of sexual assault and gender-based violence.
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You can read our article, “Confronting Sexual Assault in Sikh Spaces” via the link in our bio.
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#metoosikh #metoo #Kaur #KaurLife #SikhWoman #SikhWomen #Sikh #Sikhi #Sikhism #Khalsa #Sikhwomxn #SikhFemmes #Gurbani #Guru #SikhGuru #Singh #Singhni #breakthesilence #ChupToro

“It’s hard to have personal conversations abou

“It’s hard to have personal conversations about sexism with other Kaurs because you’re always worried about other people’s reactions or what somebody is going to say. Or maybe you’ll be told ‘you’re too sensitive’ or ‘it was just a joke’. I’m always wondering, ‘Will they support me? What if I opened up my heart to this person and they shut me down?’ ”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This was what one retreater shared during the "Unlearning Internalized Patriarchy & Misogyny" session at the Kaur Life Retreat (link in bio). She highlighted the need for all of us to hold space for each other really listen, even if we don't have the same beliefs or experiences. No two people are exactly the same, which is beautiful because we can listen and learn from one another⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What are some ways you support your fellow Kaurs who might be going through something challenging? Comment below. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What is internalized misogyny? It's when women* en

What is internalized misogyny? It's when women* enact sexist behaviors and attitudes towards themselves or other women and girls. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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How can we become more aware of this within ourselves and work towards honoring our Divine origin?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Ask yourself: What are examples of internalized misogyny I have come across? What are some sexist things I've seen, done, believe, or said? Why might that be the case? What is one action I can commit to this month to be more in line with my values? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Wanna learn more? Check out our notes from the "Unlearning Internalized Patriarchy & Misogyny" session at the Kaur Life Retreat?. Link in bio. https://bit.ly/2IvrFch⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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*Women as not defined based on sex, but rather inclusive of anyone who identifies as a woman/femme/socialized as feminine. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Wanna know what we talked about during the "Unlear

Wanna know what we talked about during the "Unlearning Internalized Patriarchy & Misogyny" session at the Kaur Life Retreat? Wonder no more! We typed up all our notes. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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"Things have changed over time and gotten better, but there’s still a lot more to do and change," said guest speakers. "We’ve already learned poor behaviors and beliefs, whether we are intellectually aware of them or not. So, we have to actively unlearn them."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Guest speakers deconstructed how internalized misogyny manifests, discussed the root of misogynistic/sexist behaviors, and helped retreaters develop their own action items on how to undo harmful beliefs/practices. Check it out! Link in bio. https://bit.ly/2IvrFch⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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navi kaur moderated the panel "Holistic Health Fro

navi kaur moderated the panel "Holistic Health From a Gurmat Perceptive" at the recent Kaur Life Retreat. navi talked about how self-care can be a form of unlearning the negative messages we are bombard with:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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"When I am holding space as a doula and holding space for folks who are pregnant and incarcerated, it’s often being willing to sit with the Divinity and light within every person. And also recognizing that a lot of what we think is wrong with us or broken within us are things that we’re being told by the media, systems, westernization and colonization."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Did you miss the Kaur Life Retreat? Don't worry! Y

Did you miss the Kaur Life Retreat? Don't worry! You can watch and read about the "Holistic Health from a Gurmat Perceptive" panel. Link in bio. https://bit.ly/3kUtXQ7⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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"It is imperative to look after what we’ve been given, and it’s a tragedy if we don’t," said panelist Rapinder Kaur. "Maybe it’s even incredibly disrespectful to the Almighty Creator if we don’t. For Punjabi women, we put our own care on the back burner, and we put the needs of others before our own."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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